" Madison, Sunday October 12, 2014
Dear Bob, and dear Andrew, AnneMarie and Ainsley, and dear Zach and Margaret!
We've been thinking of you and Sandy constantly these days, we are with you in our thoughts and in our prayers. May our Lord and God give you peace and strength in the days and weeks ahead. Sandy is always with you, that we know, she's walking by your side and loving you. She sends her blessings.
John and I have known Sandy and Bob ever since we joined Bethel, it seems, way back in 1970. We were sitting on the same side in the pews. We loved it when Sandy and Bob took interest in our children when they were born, and then when our last one, Mark, was about two years old, Andrew appeared in the pews!!! We were absolutely thrilled and happy for the Courters. Bob was the most devoted dad I can imagine, the big bear, i.e. former football player, always holding the little one - no way Andrew would be sent to the nursery. Later, we remember Margaret as a tiny tot, shouting out the Lord's prayer - all the lines - at the top of her voice.
In 1983 I began working in "General Engineering". The next fall Sandy joined our group, teaching the Technical Writing course. As you know, for Sandy, useful work was priority. It made her happy to work with a goal and to serve others through teaching and creating new programs. One spring semester, she had to quit in March because Zach was born, on St. Patrick's Day - and what traditions we had at GE on that day - true Irish coffee and cup cakes with shamrocks. So I took over Sandy's sections. That May, we had planned a TC program for the engineers at the Green Bay Power plant and the paper mills. Zach, mind you, you were two months old, well-fed and growing to catch up with your brother. Your mom thought nothing of being tired, and off we trekked up north to Green Bay to co-teach the 2-day seminar. Daddy Bob had to follow with Zach, and do everything for him, except he could not feed him. Sandy would sneak out of the seminar to make sure Zach got his milk. Sandy was devoted to both her work and her family!!!
Together with Sandy, I enjoyed the many meetings on Quality Improvement, Teaching Improvement, and other facilitated meetings. We also concocted new ideas. Sandy helped me in establishing the novel Certificate in Technical Communication. We actually were three women from Bethel in the TC progam: Gretchen Schoff, Sandy and I. One day, we stood in the hallway after a long meeting, commenting to each other, 'If only we women could run Engineering, everything would work more smoothly.' Even so, Sandy, developed a knack in bringing people together and making them talk to each other. She was always inclusive and made sure every voice was heard. In the later years, Sandy went on to create and lead the Learning Center in engineering, while I became Director of the TC program.
After I retired in 2003, Sandy continued in her career, and occasionally we had lunch together to catch up. I enjoyed those lunches with Sandy. We got to know each other even better and talked about living and family. I learned more about the rainbow. We always caught up on family, we shared about the difficulties of growing up, the trials and joys that young people go through. I was so happy to hear about the great family trip out west, and the regular trips to Ohio. For our children, talking with the Courters in church during their visits to Madison made them feel at home and welcomed. Sandy always was interested and supportive an they loved Bob's silly jokes. Sandy was at the showers for our girls weddings, and Sandy and Bob danced at all three weddings. Bob also took those wonderful photos at our 25th wedding anniversary. Thank you for being there for our family.
With the start of the Bethel idea, I had been thinking about the concept of a Luther's Table and invited Sandy to work with us. I knew she wasn't so well but I also knew she'd love the idea and would want to contribute. I still remember the first meeting when we developed our mission statement. It was like in old times in our team course that we co-taught for business students. We used the sticky note approach, were one asks the questions and the other records and posts. It worked like in old times. We developed a cogent mission for the Luther's Table and did very good work in the committee. To mind comes Sandy's beautiful vision for the appearance of this place. This is what she wrote, and of course it reminds of your home on Midtown Road that she loved so deeply:
"You're near the Capital Square, specifically walking out of Michelangelo's onto Gilman Street and look north. You see an intriguing new three-story structure. With glass walls, the structure is transparent. You see inter-connecting stairs from one floor to another. You even see an overpass between the parking ramp and the second floor of the new building. You see a spark from what appears to be a fireplace. Yes, the three-story fireplace is positioned such that passersby can see it, be warmed by the thought of it, and welcomed in by those working at Luther's Table. The fireplace is especially nice during our six months of cold weather. But during all seasons, a fireplace provides a natural gathering space."
Only a year ago, on Mission Sunday, Sandy wrote out the menu for Luther's Table on the white board at Bethel and obviously enjoyed the realistic enactment of this venue for the Bethel Idea. I continue to hope that we might bring our plans to fruition. Sandy would love it.
There were many things Sandy stood for. For me, I admired her creativity and courage to try new and big things, I appreciated her loyalty to people, and willingness to serve and just do it, her warmth. I know she loved her family above all, and she knew our Lord. Our father in heaven, bless Sandy and her dear family and keep them all in your loving care always.
There is a line in C.S. Lewis, which we have always cherished because it is true and helps us to live on - Christians never say good bye. Sandy will be with you always.
With love, and tears, and prayers, Gisela and John Kutzbach
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