"When we first moved next door to the Hiddings we thought there were 12 children living there with all the nicknames for the kids. Jim & George were good tall and muscular guys and we would always invite them along to go sailing so they could help set up the sailboat mast. I think they enjoyed sailing with us. They bought our old sailboat and did get out on it some. Linda, our thought and prays are with you and the whole family.Peggy & Allan"
In loving memory of
James "Jim" Hidding
December 31, 1969 - December 31, 1969
James Timothy Hidding, 48, passed away April 20, 2009. He was born on June 20, 1960 in Golden Valley, MN. Jim grew up in the Twin Cities. He was a 1982 graduate of St. John?s University with a Bachelor of Science in Analytical Chemistry. Jim worked as a State Toxicologist for North Dakota State University in Fargo. Jim met his wife, Linda at the university and they were married on July 29, 1989. They relocated to Carmel, IN in August, 1993 where he worked at Methodist Hospital. Jim continued to work with Covance Central Laboratories until he became disabled. He was preceded in death by his mother, Virginia Ann Hidding. Survivors include his father, John Bernard of Shorewood, MN; wife; Linda; son, Matthew; daughters, Kristen and Rachel all of Carmel; stepdaughter, Nicole (husband, Denny) of Burnsville, MN; stepson, Derek of Largo, FL; three grandchildren, Isaac, Leah and Micah of Burnsville, MN; sister, Mary Sherman and family of Dayton, OH; brothers, George and family of Victoria, MN, John Bernard III, Twin Cities and sister, Sarah (husband, John) of Philadelphia, PA. Jim was published in the Forensic Science International in 1987. He also had a karate brown belt and was CHRP Gamma Team at St. Elizabeth Seton Catholic Church, of which he was a member. Family and friends will gather on Thursday, April 23, 2009 from 4:00 -7:30 p.m. with a Wake beginning at 7:30 p.m. in St. Elizabeth Seton Catholic Church, 10655 Haverstick Road, Carmel, IN. The Mass of Christian Burial will be Friday, April 24, 2009 at 10:30 a.m. also in the church. Please visit www.leppertmortuary.com where you may sign the guest book, share a memory or make a memorial contribution to the church or to Little Sisters of the Poor, 2345 W. 86th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260. Arrangements with Leppert Mortuary, Smith Carmel Chapel.
Tributes
"Aunt Linda, Matt, Kristen, and Rachel,I wish I could be there with you this week. Jim was the best, he was the nicest person. He made especially good home -made bagels. Jim and all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.love Meghan"
"Mary,So sorry to hear of your brother's passing. Larry and I want you to know your and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. God bless and keep you. "
"Linda and FamilyVery sorry to hear about Jim. We will always remember his friendly smile greeting us and the enjoyable visits we had with him. Our prayers are with you."
"Dear Sarah and George, I am so sorry to hear of the lost of your brother. It is always hard to lose a sibling. I survive by remembering all the good memories. I am sure you have many. Sarah I will try to call you next week. You are in our prayers. Love Teresa Terry Kaitlyn William and Colleen"
"Many fond memories of JIm from college. Met Jim through his brother George. Many great times at the Hidding household watching the interaction between the children and the parents.His infectious smile always made one wonder what Jim was up to, but always made one feel better.We will keep all his family in our prayers....Peace in Christ..Mark and Jane Hackert and family"
"Linda and kids,We wanted to share our heartfelt condolences with you about Jim's passing. He had a huge impact on my life and I owe much of what I have become today to his support and observing his example. I learned alot from just observing how he carried himself and expressed his values during the tumultuous college days. He was the touchstone for many of us when we could have easily gotten caught up in partying and unhealthy behaviors. Sure he was stubborn and argumentative but we discovered our freshman year that he also had many fine qualities such as loyalty, empathy and a knack for cheering you up when you just got dumped, or failed a physics test. He faithfully attended church every Sunday and set an example of heartfelt spirtuality for the rest of us to follow. I spent many wonderful days and nights during the summers in the cities playing miniature golf, or going out to dance clubs. His stick-to-it-tivness was legendary even back in college. I remember seeing Jim trying to hold a kicking bag still while our teacher (a black belt) and his same size rained blow after blow against it. Jim lost that struggle, but that did not defeat his passion for karate (I took it for about two months and then dropped out because my feet hurt from the gym floor). He had a zest for life which was boundless (yet when it came to studying, he was very grounded). I remember his penchant for weird hamburger-based goulash dishes, and the pure pleasure of eating with friends. We enjoyed many poker games, all night games of Risk, and enduring his weird experiment to make beer in the dormitory study area (in a big garbage can). We took two different roadtrips to YellowStone Natl. park our Junior and Senior year, camping along the way. I remember hiking the woods with Jim and thinking that we heard a bear and hightailing it back to camp. Of sitting in Deadwood SD in a cemetary and eating cold baked beans from the can, and of silently observing the gentle hills of the battle of the little Bighorn. At SJU, he loved to cross country ski, and would try any challenge, wether steep hill, slushy lake or narrow trail with trees on both sides. After we graduated, I came home one year after during the X-mas break and needed to make some money, and Jim got me a job with him painting some apartment complex hallways in the middle of winter. He was the best of friends during the short time I knew him in college, and I deeply regret that I did not make more of an effort to remain in his life. During my life, I have been blessed with many material things, but I cherish the immaterial things the most: my wife, my son, my family, and my deepest friendships such as I had with Jim. I will leave you all with these words of wisdom on the dealing with chonic illness at the end of life which I ran across.Giving Up and Letting GoGiving up implies a struggle - Letting go implies a partnershipGiving up dreads the future - Letting go looks forward to the futureGiving up lives out of fear - Letting go lives out of grace and trustGiving up is a defeat - Letting go is a victoryGiving up is unwillingly yielding control to forces beyond myself -Letting go is choosing to yield to forces beyond myselfGiving up believes that God is to be feared -Letting go trusts in God to care for me. Hank DunnYou all wil remain in our hearts and our prayers,Love,John & CristinaP.S. I will scan and mail some photos I have of Jim during his college days."
"I grew up in Brooklyn Park, across the street from the Hiddings. George was my best friend. James was two years younger and the three of us hung out for years. We did all the things kids do growing up in the suburbs. We played baseball all summer, built go-carts that didn't go. When my mom was making liver for dinner, I would ask George if I could eat dinner at his house. I spent many dinners with the Hidding family. George and I went to the seminary together in 72-73. After that, I lost touch with the family. I've always wondered what they were up to. I talked to George a couple of times through the years.A couple years ago, I heard that James was ill and in a nursing home. I tried to call George one night but he wasn't home. I wish I had tried again. I want to express my sincere condolences to the Hidding family and trust you will find the strength in each other in the coming days. Sincerely,Joseph Franke-Ciccarelli"
"To the family of Jim,I am sorry to read about the loss of Jim. I grew up with Jim, We Frankes knew him as "Tim". He and I were the same age and therefore shared many of lifes early pleasures... sports, playing with all the neighborhood kids, koolaid, sitting in the garage attic space as a makeshift sauna on humid Minnesota summer days. I often reflect on my childhood days in that neighborhood and remember all the Hidding kids fondly. My heart goes out to all of Jim's family and all those touched by Jim.Sincerely,Mike Franke"
"As the youngest of the Franke family, I remember the Hiddings as our neighbors on Jersey Avenue more than any other neighbors. Jim was always the really tall guy whose height seemed like a giant to me as I was so young back then. I always remember his smiling and friendly personality.As we just laid our own brother, Chris, to rest, it really strikes me how short life is. Smile and enjoy life as it is."
"To the family of Jim,Sorry to hear about Jim's passing. I only knew Jim for a few short months during the summer of '79 when he worked at Tonka Toys on the night shift. He was the one who would trade spots on the line with me when I had to put the roofs on the toy pick-up trucks before they went to the paint room. He was a kind person."
"I worked with Jim at Covance Central Laboratories for several years. He was an extremely bright man but he drew you in with his warm heart. He helped me find solutions for several big projects and never asked for anything in return. He was honest, sincere, and caring. I was a better person for having known him. There are far to few men like him and he will be deeply missed. My thoughts and prayers are with the family during this difficult time. Tracie"