"Dear Mr. and Mrs. Oakley, Katie, Meghan, Anna & Laura, I am so regretful to be writing to you on the occasion of David's passing... I am holding you all in my thoughts with love and compassion --- returning to you some of the warmth of your home and your family which I carry with my from my childhood. May David's memory be a blessing. With deepest sympathy, Tamar Samuel-Siegel"
In loving memory of
David Adam Oakley
December 17, 2018
David Adam Oakley, age 24, of Chicago, formerly of Quincy, Illinois, died on Monday, December 17, 2018 in Chicago, Illinois.
David was born May 16, 1994 in Newton, New Jersey the son of David Ray and Theresa Helen Scholz Oakley.
From a young age, David was an avid sports fan. From watching the New York Yankees to playing raucous games of "10-minutes" basketball on the front porch, David loved to share the spirit of friendly competition. David enjoyed playing tennis and golf with his family at home and in St. Simons, Georgia.
Through years of youth league soccer with "Coach Dave", David forged a love of soccer that yielded some of his strongest friendships. Whether he was playing a pick-up game at the park with friends or watching his beloved Chelsea F.C. at the pub with compatriots, nothing brought more joy than fellowship with the ones he loved.
At Merriam Avenue School, Halsted Middle School, St. Peter School, Quincy Notre Dame, and the University of Illinois, David made a mark on the lives of his many friends and will be remembered by all as a gentle, loving soul.
In high school David played for the QND Raiders tennis and golf teams. David was a member of Delta Upsilon fraternity at University of Illinois and Chicago-Chelsea F.C. in America.
Foremost, David was part of a family of five children and his parents. With his brothers-in-law, niece and nephews, aunts and uncles and many cousins; and friends from all stages of life, David numbered among a large community of loving family and friends. He will be missed dearly by all of them.
David is survived by his parents, Dave and Theresa Oakley; four sisters, Katie (Tim Fialcowitz) Oakley, Meghan (Jess) Oakley-Henning, Anna Oakley, and Laura (Alex Cowling) Oakley; a niece, Hannah Fialcowitz; two nephews, Paul Fialcowitz and Charlie Henning; his paternal grandparents, David and Mary Oakley; 10 aunts and uncles: Michael (Virginia) Oakley, Tim (Denise) Oakley, Susan (Vincent) Gauthier, Cathy (Gary) Bunce; Ann Scholz, SSND, Martha Scholz, Chuck (Becky) Scholz, Cathy (Steve) Scholz Meckes, Chris (Monica) Scholz, and Mary (Wake) Scholz Barber; and numerous cousins and friends.
David was preceded in death by his maternal grandparents, Charles and Nancy Scholz.
Services: 10:00 am Friday, December 21, 2018 Mass of Christian burial at the Church of St. Peter with Monsignor Leo Enlow officiating.
Burial: Woodland Cemetery, Quincy, Illinois
Visitation: 3:00 to 7:00 pm on Thursday, December 20, 2018 at the Church of St. Peter.
Memorials: QND Foundation, St. Peter's School, or National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Chicago
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Tributes
"We are so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express our feelings. You are in our prayers. Janet Correll Ellison"
"My sincere condolences to all."
"Oakley Family, I am shocked to hear this news and my heart aches for all of you. You are all in our prayers."
"I am so incredibly sorry for your loss"
"I am truly sorry for your loss. When we are faced with unbearable pain, we can find comfort in the hope found in the Bible. God promises to comfort us in all our trials. (2 Corinthians 1:3,4) He promises that those who have fallen asleep in death will have the prospect of living forever in paradise. ?And I have hope toward God, which hope these men also look forward to, that there is going to be a resurrection.? (Acts 24:15) There will be a resurrection, and those who are brought back will not worry about sickness, pain, or death. (Revelation 21:4) May this hope comfort your greiving hearts at this difficult time."
"I'll miss you Newman..."
"Our deepest sympathies to your family."
"The Pruitt Family shares our love and prayers to Theresa, Dave and family. David is in God?s care and alive in your hearts forever. We cannot express enough...only prayers with you for peace"
"Praying for peace and sending loving thoughts to all of you. May you rely on the strength of others and our loving God to get you through this. Hug, Carol and Mike McCabe"
"We're so sorry about David's passing. Our thoughts, prayers, and sympathy are with all of you. God bless you."
"Dave and Theresa, so sorry for your loss. We are keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time."
"So sorry David and Theresa Ted Kemner"
"Sending you our deepest condolences. Praying that God grants you peace and strength as you navigate this sorrow."
"It?s hard to understand why a fine young man is taken from us. We offer our our deepest regrets and sympathy."
"Our hearts are saddened at your loss. May the Lord's peace surround you through this difficult time."
"We were sorry to hear of your son passing. Our Sincere Sympathy Tom and Kathy Albsmeyer"
"My deepest sympathy to all of you for this incredible loss to your family. I will be thinking of you."
"Dear Dave and Theresa: We were so saddened to hear of your loss. Jim and I send our deepest sympathy and prayers for peace and strength to you and all of your family. We are thinking of you all at this difficult time."
"Dave/Theresa Oakley, So stunned to hear that you lost a son at a young age. Life seems to work in strange ways. Please know that my prayers are with you during this grieving process. I miss my son-Jason ever day and he reminds me of his presence when I come across a note or pic from him. My condolences."
"Dave, Theresa and Family, My deepest heartfelt sympathy is with you during this difficult time. I will keeping you in my prayers ."
"We are sending prayers to you all. May he Rest In Peace."
"I'm sorry for your loss. David and I attended college together, and we were part of the same fraternity. He was a friend and a brother. I'll always remember him and the great times we shared. My heart goes out to you and your family."
"Dear Oakley Family, I was so saddened to hear of the passing of David. I remember going with your family to St Simons when David was about 4 years old - I think I will always remember David as that adorable, sweet and funny little boy. My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family."
"Words can't express how sorry we are for your loss. We wish you and your family strength at this time. Celebrate his life. You're in our thoughts and prayers, our deepest sympathy to you and your family."
"Rest in Peace David. You will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are will the Oakley family in this time of loss."
"Theresa and Dave, I remember David from his years at the Merriam Avenue School when I was an aide there. He was such a sweet and friendly boy. I am heartbroken to hear such sad and tragic news. My deepest sympathy to you and your family."
"We are devastated to hear of your loss. We are crying too. We will keep you in our thoughts and may fond memories comfort you. We wish you strength to sustain you through this ordeal."
"Teresa and Dave, my deepest sympathies for you and your family. May your families and friends be a source of strength and unbounded love as you cope with this tragic loss"
"Katie, we are devastated to hear of your loss. Our hearts are crying too. We will keep you in our thoughts and we wish you strength in this time of anguish. Fond memories will sustain you and it will get easier."
"Dear Dave & Theresa and family, Words will never be enough to convey the sadness we feel for each of you. I remember David as a spunky, funny kid, who was always moving. Our prayers for peace, love and God's arms around you, at this time of sorrow. Kathy and Terry Quinn"
"Dear Theresa, Dave, and family, With heartfelt sympathy, please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers."
"You have my heart and prayers at this difficult time. I am so saddened by this sudden loss...peace and be well."
"To my Oakley family, my heart is broken. I remember the day Meghan told me that her mom was having a baby, and them the news that David was born. I have such fond memories of David as a youngster. I wish I could be there with you for the services, and that Jersey wasn't so far away. Please know that David was and is still a sweet little guy in my memory. Love you all."
"On behalf of everyone at Chelsea Chicago, I offer our deepest sympathies and love to David' family and friends. David was not just one of our members; he was our family. We will never forget the joy he brought to us all and the good times we shared. And we will live our lives in the kind spirit he shared with us all. David, I will miss you bother and can't wait to share a drink with you again. Love, Brian"
"Dear Theresa, Dave, and family, We are in shock after hearing the sad news of David's passing. We send you our love and prayers at this very painful time."
"Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss?our thoughts are with you all during this difficult time."
"There are truly no words to express the heartache that we feel for you all. Mike and I have always considered the Oakley's family and have been blessed to experience the love that you share to everyone around you. May you feel comfort in knowing how incredibly loved you all are and that you are surrounded by people that want to help you through the many difficult days ahead. Love and prayers from our family to yours."
"Theresa & Dave and family We are very saddened by the heartbreak of losing David. Our thoughts and prayers are with you . May God help you find comfort , strength and peace. Our sincere condolences. GOD BLESS! Hugs!!!"
"Dave & Theresa, We were very sorry for your loss our thoughts & prayers are with you; may you keep good memories in your heart."
"Dear Dave and Theresa, We are so saddened to hear of David?s passing. He was such a warm, sweet and genuine person. I will always remember chatting with him at the Kenah?s pool talking about Newton. You are all in our thoughts, hearts, and prayers. May God Bless you all today and every day. Love Always, Kieran and Meghan Gill"
"PRAYERS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AT THIS TIME , SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS MAY HE REST IN PEACE"
"Mr. and Mrs. Oakley, You were a prominent family in the Newton, NJ community. I remember you and your children but especially David as I was a classroom and lunch/recess aide at Merriam Avenue School at the time that David attended. David was a magical boy and I am so very sorry for his passing. Please know that all of you are in the Newton community's thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, Mrs. Karen Vealey"
"Theresa and Dave, we are so sorry to hear of your loss and pray for you both and the rest of your family during this most difficult time. Much love, Erica and Christian Spears"
"Great kid. Great family! Our prayers are with you"
"The Board and staff and Cornerstone Foundations for Families express our sympathies to you and your family during this very difficult time."
"Dearest David and T, our love and condolences at the loss of your loving son. May his Memory be Eternal."
"Dave and T and family, Like everyone else, we are stunned and heartbroken to hear about David. Please know we are sending our love to you all, Jeff, Susan, Anna, and Sophie"
"My prayers are that your Faith will help sustain your families during this tragedy. God bless you all. I am deeply, truly sorry for this terrible loss."
"Dave, Theresa, and Family - there are no words to express the heartbreak felt from afar; we know there is no way to fully comprehend the hurt you/the family are experiencing. The only value we can bring to the Oakley family, are to send much love, positive thoughts, and LOTS of prayers. Hard to consider as worldly consolation, but our hope is that David sits in God's lap, in full reunion with Charlie and Nancy, Cleo and Dick, Rich and Ellen and the litany of the Saints. Knowing only the grace of God, and time will defray the hurt; you both, and the full extended family remain in our thoughts and payers."
"Our deepest sympathy, thoughts, and prayers. . ."
"Dear Dave, T, girls and family; Please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this time of loss and profound sorrow. No family is as strong as yours - your faith is strong; the love and support of all of your family members will help you each hour. Most importantly, trust that God?s Grace is with all of you and stays with you forever until you are rejoined with David in Heaven. You are never alone. Love you all."
"I am so sorry for your loss."
"We are deeply saddened to learn of your profound loss. While we did not personally know this admired young man, we have been fortunate to know his loving parents and grandparents and their good deeds. May God?s love, indelible memories and caring friends bring strength."
"I am sorry for your loss."
"Dear Theresa and Dave, Our hearts are so sad for you. We will keep him and your family in my prayers"
"Theresa, David and family. Our hearts are broken over the death of David. Know that your family loves you and you will not walk this road alone."
"When I think about David I remember when I was asked to spend a couple summer days with him and Laura. Anna was away at a camp or somewhere, and Laura and David were still to little to be left home alone, so I was invited to spend some time at the Oakley house. The three of us invented a game where we we took turns blind folding one another and leading the blindfoldee around Newton. Once the two leading decided they took enough turns around town the blind foldee had to try and guess where they were. As anyone can imagine, this game was a lot of fun and a favorite past time. My next door neighbor at the time, Marybeth Kohberger, drove by one day and saw Laura and David leading me around Newton blind folded; she kindly suggested that it might not be such a good idea to blindly walk around town with the two kids I was supposed to be caring for. I think back on this memory often and laugh at the shananigans we got into; some of my fondest childhood memories were created with the Oakleys. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Heaven gained an angel."
"The Board of Directors, staff, and volunteers of the Quincy Art Center express our deepest sympathies and warmest condolences in this very difficult time for your family. Our hearts go out to you."
"T and Dave, My deepest sympathy for you and your family. May God give you and your family the strength and courage to find peace with the loss of your son."
"My heart hurts for your loss. I did not know David, but know that the Oakley and Scholz families are grieving. May knowing that he is in God's arms and in peace bring you comfort over time. My sincere and deepest sympathy."
"Words can not express our sorrow at this terrible news. You all will be in our prayers."
"Dear Dave, Theresa, and family, our deepest and most heartfelt condolences. Our family mourns your loss. Much love and peace. ??"
"Dearest Dave, T, young Dave's beautiful sisters & extended Oakley & Scholz families: Knowing this is a shock of a lifetime, there are just no words to take away the pain of your heavy hearts. Gone way to soon, David is surely being welcomed in heaven by many family already in our Lord's presence. David left you lasting memories, his love will always be at your side. God bless David? Adam & all of you.Our condolences.?Tom & Lisa"
"I am so sorry for your loss and send my deepest condolences. David was an amazing friend, brother and roommate and will be greatly missed. I will always cherish the memories I was lucky enough to share with him."
"We are so sorry to hear this. Our deepest sympathy to your family."
"There are no words that can fully express the pain that you must be feeling. Our hearts break for you and the entire family. Much love to you all."
"Our prayers and deepest condolences for this sudden and tragic loss. May God comfort through this difficult season. Our deepest sympathy for all."
"Dear Theresa, Dave and Family -- We grieve with you, and offer our most sincere sympathy and deepest hopes for your recovery. We will be with you in spirit as you heal and emerge from this profound loss. Sincerely, Carol and Alan Nichols"
"Dave, Theresa & entire family our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this incredibly difficult time. Love to you. Jeff & Joanne"
"Sending heartfelt condolences to you both and extended family. This is an unshakable loss for Noah and the friends he shared with your son. Holding you close in prayers of comfort. Curtis and Cindy Spake"
"Dave, Theresa and Family: Sending sincere sympathy and prayers at the loss of David, I have fond memories of him playing tennis at the QRC."
"T and Dave and family, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you my prayers and deepest sympathy."
"Dave and T, so very sorry to hear of your loss. Sending you prayers and my deepest sympathy."
"Dear Dave, Therese and Family, My heart is breaking for all of you. David was such a kind and wonderful person and such a good friend to Andrew. His smile and personality were so heartwarming. Please know you have our sincerest and deepest sympathies during this time and always. Much love to all of you."
"Dave and Theresa and family: We are so saddened by this news. Connor spent so much time with David over the years, I know David's spirit will live on - with Connor and everyone who loved him. Our love and friendship are with you today and all the days ahead..."
"T and Dave, Love to you and your family. So very sorry."
"Our heartfelt condolences to your family and friends. A young life gone too soon ?"
"We are so sorry for your loss. We are thinking of you and of David."
"Dear Dave, Theresa, and family. We are so very sorry to hear of your loss. We are sending our prayers and our deepest sympathy to you all during this difficult time."
"My heart is breaking for you. David was such a sweetheart. Always a joy to be around. It was impossible to not smile when you were with him. I am so sorry you all have to experience this huge loss. Our whole family grieves with you."
"Prayers and peace to you all."
"We are so very sorry !! Wish we knew what to say or do to help ease your pain ! ?? Love and prayers"
"Words can not express the pain n sorrow of losing a child. Our family sends peace and prayers"
"Deepest sympathy to all of you. So sorry for your loss."
"Dave and T and family: We cannot believe this news. Our hearts are breaking for you. Please accept our sincere condolences as we pray that our Lord will give you strength, courage, and peace."
"So sorry for your loss."