In loving memory of

Anna Mae Townes
November 24, 1935 - August 5, 2019

Born November 24, 1935 in Meeker, Oklahoma, Anna Mae was the daughter of Frank and Nettie Kathryn (Miller) Gray. Anna Mae's early childhood would be spent in the Meeker and Chandler communities before the family made Bixby their home. In Bixby, she would attend and graduate from high school, following which, she would meet and marry William "Bill" Byrum, a sailor in the U.S. Navy. Their life together would consist of several moves, with the Navy, allowing them to see much of the world. They would also begin a family of their own welcoming two daughters: Kathy and Carol. Eventually, the family would return to the Tulsa area to make their home. Sadly, Bill would pass away in 1979.

While in Tulsa, Anna Mae found employment with Oklahoma Natural Gas where she worked as an account clerk. She would retire from this endeavor after many years of faithful service.

When not at work, Anna Mae could be found out shopping for her grandchildren or for fabric. With that fabric, she would spend countless hours quilting for her family and friends. In fact, there are numerous recipients of her handwork who will feel her love for years to come when they are wrapped up in one of her beautiful creations.

Anna Mae was able to find love again when she married James "Jim" White. Upon his passing, she would marry Robert "Bob" Townes. Many wonderful memories were made with these great men and she always welcomed and accepted their families as her own.

Showing her love and support through her attendance, Anna Mae, also known as "Grandma" or "Gigi" was one who loved to make any and all of the activities that her grandchildren or great-grandchildren participated in. She also loved weekly lunches with her friends and being pampered through regular manicures/pedicures. Able to travel extensively, on the back of a Gold Wing motorcycle, Anna Mae was able to see much of the U.S. this way and always had a story to tell about her adventures.

Also, a stylish woman, Anna Mae was one to ensure that her clothing and accessories were just right - from her hats to her high heels and jewelry. She has been described as: nurturing, generous, loving, caring, funny, and a little sassy. The one thing that remained true for Anna Mae was, she was always there for her family and friends. Those who were close to her will long remember how she would always say, "Love you all", always wanted to know how the 'kids' were doing and was always a woman of faith.
A fan of OU sports, the Oklahoma City Thunder, old-time country music, and a good cup of coffee, Anna Mae had a love for life and was a joy to be around. In fact, the holidays never be the same in the absence of Anna Mae, including: her homemade pies and Christmas candy.

Anna Mae passed away on Monday, August 5, 2019 in Tulsa. She was 83.

She was preceded in death by: her parents, Frank and Nettie Gray; daughter, Kathy Smelcer; her husbands: Bill Byrum, Jim White and Bob Townes.

She is survived by: sister, Glenda Helm and husband, Bob; brother, James Gray and wife, Rosemary; sister-in-law, Bonnie Bushlack; daughter, Carol Brassfield and husband, David; son-in-law, Arnold Smelcer; step-children: Sharon Townes, Pat Skocdopole and husband, Finley, Pam Battenfield and husband, Gary; Ronnie White and wife, Toni; grandchildren: Tiffany Jones and husband, Michael; Tyler Brassfield and wife, Candace; Amber Holman and husband, Joshua; Allie Landrum and husband, Brent; great-grandchildren: Ryan, Brayden, Cicely, Sophie, Gunner, and Brooklyn.


Rachel Skocdopole Miller wrote on Aug 12, 2019:

"I called her Grandma Ann. I'm so glad I had the chance to have her for a second Grandma. Ann was a remarkable Christian woman and loved everyone that she met. I will miss her. I'm praying for comfort for the family. Love y'all!"

Ann CorrionGreen wrote on Aug 8, 2019:

"Sweet Anna you are going to be missed. I didn't have the pleasure of knowing you for years. But in the time that we spent talking when you were in Pulmonary Rehab and those days in the hospital. You were a character and motorcycle girl and lived a full life. I know you are up in heaven tearing it up. Never forgotten! Prayers for family and friends "

Shirley McConnell wrote on Aug 8, 2019:

"Anna was the most kind, thoughtful and compassionate person I have ever known. She was always thinking of others. She was a beautiful person and we shared many good times and some sad ones as well. I miss my special friend already."