In loving memory of

Thomas J. Bolender
January 24, 1953 - October 21, 2007

Middletown, RI- Thomas J. Bolender, 54, of Middletown, RI, died Sunday, October 21, 2007 at his home. Born in Newport, RI on January 24, 1953, he was the son of Carl Bolender, Sr. of Middletown, RI and Virginia Bolender of Newport, RI. Tom was an avid horseman and golfer. He was an excellent polo player and whip master of the Blue Ridge Hunt Club in Charlottesville, VA. He was a master carpenter in both Virginia and Newport, RI. He was a devoted son, brother and friend to all who knew and loved him. His passion was for people, horses, and being on the water. His amazing smile and laughter will be remembered by all. Besides his mother and father, he is survived by his long time companion Cheryl Kilroy, his daughter Karen Bolender of Atlanta, GA, his brothers Robert Bolender of North Salem, NY, and Carl ?Bill? Bolender, Jr. of Middletown, RI, his sisters Christina Shepherd of Raleigh, NC, Charlotte ?Lollie? Bolender of Edgewater, FL, and Danielle Bolender of Newport, RI, his former wife Christie Bolender of Portsmouth, RI, his seven nieces and nephews and his loyal dog ?Lola?. Calling hours will be on Wednesday, October 24, 2007 from 4:30- 7:30 with a Memorial service to follow at 7:30 in the Memorial Funeral Home, 375 Broadway, Newport, RI. Burial will be private. Donations in his memory may be made to the Robert Potter League For Animals, PO Box 412, Newport, RI 02840.

Tributes

Jeff Sheehan - July 12, 2008 a.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Hi, looking for Robert Bolender. Please contact me at this e-mail jeffsheehan24@gmail.com Thanks"

Karen Santos Dill - November 0.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Dear Bolender Family, I was just logging on to read the Newport Daily News online and read of Tommy's passing. I will miss his smile and his passion for the things that he loved. I will hold tight to the happy memories, riding horses together at Middletown Stables and out at the Glen, dressing up for Halloween and riding through town in a horse-drawn cart. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for all of you, but know that I am holding you close in my heart and in my prayers."

Wally and Patti Alvord - Octob.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"We were so sad to hear of the passing of your son.Our heartfelt condolences to your entire family.The comforting words of the old hymn" farther along we'll know more about it; farther along we'll understand why " come to mind. May you find peace in the pleasant memories of your fine son and may the peace of the Lord be with you all at this time>"

Al Granger - October 26, 2007 .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Although I had not seen Tommy in many years, I am very sorry to hear of his passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all."

joe brewer - October 26, 2007 .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"I was saddened to learn of Tommy's passing. My prayers and thoughts are with all who knew and loved him"

Tootie & Bill Charboneau - Oct.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Dear Mr&Mrs Bolender; Bobby;Billy;Chrissie;Lolli;Cheryl and all of Tommy's loved ones: We are both so sorry to hear about Tommy and can only imagine your deep loss and sadness. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. With heartfelt sympathy,"

Andy Bacon - October 25, 2007 .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"To the Bolender family, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of Tommy. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Peace."

dave carlin - October 25, 2007.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Carl, Maureen and I are very sad to hear of the passing away of your son. How sad it must be for you and the family. We will keep all of you in our prayers. Dave Carlin"

Claire Oakley - October 25, 20.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Billy: We are so sorry for your loss. Please express our condolences to your family. Love, Sid & Claire"

Anita Connell Gifford - Octobe.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"I was deeply saddened to have learned of Tommy's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all."

Todd and Scarlet Cummings - Oc.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Christie and Karin, our thoughts are with you. Hold on to the beautiful memories."

Symon & Jackie Cousens - Octob.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"To Billy, Carl Sr. & all of Tommy's family & friends, Our thoughts are with at this time of tragic loss. Tommy was always a pleasure to run into, always friendly & warm. He'll be missed."

Sonny Behan - October 24, 2007.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Dear Carl Sr., Billy and family, I just found out about Tommy's passing this evening. My heartfelt condolences go out to all of you. Please know that Tommy and all of the Bolender family are in my prayers. Your friend, Sonny Behan"

Chuck & Anna Dewick - October .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"To Carl & Ginny Bolender We are sorry to read about Tommy's passing and that we were unable to attend his service,but please know you are all in our prayers and thoughts. Debbie who lives in Conn. sends her love also.. Lot's of happy memories. Chuck and Anna Dewick"

Randy Frey - October 24, 2007 .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"Tom visited Charlottesville polo club several years after retiring from polo and as I extended my hand he shook it and gave me a big hug. That's the kind of friend he was. To all his relatives I send my deepest sympathy."

Mr. and Mrs. Bruce Carriker - .. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"To the Bolender Family, our thoughts and our prayers are with each of you."

FSTEVENS - October 23, 2007 at.. wrote on Oct 21, 2007:

"ALL OF US AT CARDIOPULMONARY AT NEWPORT HOSPITAL SEND OUR DEEPEST SYMPATHIES TO OUR FRIEND CHERYL,HER FAMILY,AND OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH TOM'S FAMILY AT THIS MOST DIFFICULT TIME."