Jessica Susanne Stanley, of Spanaway, WA, passed away peacefully surrounded by many loved ones on Friday, June 26, 2020 at the age of 46.
Jessica was born to parents Lois and Léon Robert Stanley in August of 1973. She grew up as one of three children and attended Auburn High School. Her hobbies included photography, scrapbooking, bowling, drawing, fashion, music, and jewelry making. She met her lifelong sweetheart, Jeffrey Dickinson in 1996. The couple had two children together. She was able to be a loving stay-at-home mom with a selfless dedication to their children. She was taken from us far too soon.
A true humanitarian, Jessica endeavored to see the best in people. Moreover, she always put the needs of others over her own. This trait of hers really shines when it comes to her children; Kelton and Jade. She loved and poured everything into their upbringing. A lot of who Jessica was survives in her children. In that sense, her spirit and resolve will not be gone from us. Jessica had a big bright charismatic smile that will be truly missed.
Jessica was a beautiful woman inside and out. She devoted her life to raising two children who she considered the greatest in the world. She persevered through everything that came her way and was one of the most loving people anyone could have known. Her son vows to carry on her legacy and make it his life mission to accomplish everything she never got the chance to. "My mom will live forever in my heart and in the memory of many others."
She taught everyone around her how to be empathetic, understanding, and supportive. Jessica had a fantastic sense of humor and was always smiling and laughing. Her family shared many inside jokes and took great joy in repeating them through the years. She also had an immense love for all animals, but especially the family cat, Gravy, and her late kitty Bruce. Jessica was always incredibly supportive of her daughter's extracurricular activities and encouraged her greatly in her hobbies and academics. She was a shining example of a mother and a terrific person all around. Jessica is tremendously loved by her family and will forever be remembered as one of the most special people to have lived.
Jessica is survived by her significant other, Jeffrey Dickinson; her son, Kelton Dickinson; her daughter, Jade Dickinson; her sister and brother-in-law, Michele and Brandon Carman; her parents, Lois and Léon Robert Stanley; kitty Gravy; her nieces, Georgia Brown, Pearl Dickinson, and Chelsey Dickinson; her nephews, Jerry Brown, Forrest Mason Van Dam; great nephews Ezra Léon Stanley, and Ezekiel Bock; her friends Becca Reeder-Smith and Amy Plumlee; other loved ones include Jerry and Adrian Brown, Robert and Erin Dickinson, Tony Dickinson, Jennifer Coggins, Talia Coggins, Glynis Dickinson and many other friends and family. Preceding her passing includes her sister Carrie Jean Stanley.
There will be an informal memorial celebrating her life in the near future. The family is grateful for the condolences. Please sign the online guest book and share any pictures you may have. Thank you.
"I am late to writing this because I still can't believe she is gone, and I'm not sure I have the words, but I am going to give it my best shot. Jessica was one of my oldest and dearest friends - I've known her for most of my life and have been the better for it. I have countless memories of Jessica, and most of them involved a lot of laughter. I love the way she laughed - man, was it great if you could make Jessie laugh. I remember her smile, and how it felt to hug her - she would hold me so tight and give me an extra squeeze at the end. She was sharp, sarcastic, and funny, and so so talented. One of my favorite things to do with Jessica, although it is impossible to pick a favorite, was taking pictures. We would get all dolled up and do photo shoots and it was a blast. She was also so generous and loving - she would drop anything if you needed her, and she was always looking for a way she could help people. I loved watching her with Kelton and Jade - she was such a warm and loving mother. She has been hugely important in my life, and even though we didn't see each other as often after I moved to the East Coast, she was never far from my thoughts, and I loved how we could pick back up every time as if we'd just seen each other the day before. I will miss her so much, and I want her family to know how important she was to so many people, and how deeply loved she was. I am sending all of my love to Jeff and her kids, and to her parents, who tolerated a lot of our craziness over the years, and to her sweet sister Michele, and to everyone else who knew and loved her like I did. This is a hard one, and I will miss her always."
"Jessica, I love you, though I never really told you to your face, and I?m not going to say I never had the chance to, that?s on me, thinking I?d catch you the next time. I will miss you dearly. You have shown love all through the years, to myself, Anita, and each one of the kids in all your little whisper ways, big laughs and wide smiles. But, these words are for us who remain. Say I love you to someone, everyday or show them by giving your time or whatever, forgive, try to put your differences behind you, hug, don?t worry about the rona? - Love everyone as much or more than you love yourself and if we can do this, we honor the memory of lovely Jessica. "
"I always loved seeing Jessica at family events, she had a wonderful smile and always made me feel good. I loved her laugh too. I always thought she was really cool and I wish we had more time together. I will miss her and my heart goes out to Petie, Bob and Michelle. I'm truly sorry you've lost another daughter/sister. Stay strong. With Love, Missy(Melissa)"
"When I ponder over the DASH which is your life [ 1973- 2020] , one of my first memories are of you and your Mom and sisters coming up to our house. Your Mother was walking across the living room floor dragging one leg, you were hanging on to that leg. Your sister Michele was hanging on to the other leg, and Carrie was a baby in her arms. And your Mom said to me " Is this what the rest of my life will be like?" As time passed I have many happy memories of you. Family reunions, fishing trips, but most of all I will remember your previous smiles at the Tea Parties in my shop. The happiness you shared with everyone there. You brought so much happiness to us. I will always remember your smiles and big hugs. Let us all remember Isa.43:5 " Fear not, for I Am with you." Norman Vincent Peale but it this way: : : What can stand in your way. Believe the great incredible fact that GOD is with you. When you really believe in HIM and then call upon HIM, He will answer and show you mighty things which you never knew. As you practice this thought you will become aware that He is also showing you a greater truth,," Don't be afraid! I am with you". This is probably one of the greatest statements ever made in the history of human life on this earth. Think big and think the biggest thought of all; that you are not alone, GOD will always help you... Norman Vincent Peale..."
"Sean says he loved you and will miss you"
"I will miss you Jessica."
"Sometimes the words don?t come. It?s so hard and hurts too much. Saying goodbye for now is so very hard sweet Jessica. I?m so glad to have been blessed with you in my life. Always loving and encouraging. You gave everything you could. Your children are amazing and very much like you.
Kelton and Jade, please know your sweet mother?s nature carries on in you. We love you and are here if you need us.
I?d like to share this:
? Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never again. Enjoy every moment of your life.?
I know this is what you want for each of us.
So enjoy adventures with her memories tucked in your hearts.
"Jessica was so funny and always willing to listen to my ideas/crack a joke here and there. I will miss her so much. I wish I had more time with her."
"I will forever treasure the memory of my Cousin Jessica. She was a brightness that lit up the lives of so many. I miss her dearly.
I always knew she cared about me and my family. She went out of her way to hug me and ask how I was doing at every family gathering. She was always ready to laugh and to talk about the things that she enjoyed doing and the new experiences we'd had. She was very artistic and encouraged me to purse my artistic passions as well.
One of my fondest memories of her was when I was very young she asked if I would do a photo shoot with her for a photography class that she was doing (or maybe it was a contest?). She took amazing pictures and was very kind and fun with many ideas for poses and I could tell, even as a little girl that photography was something that she was passionate about and enjoyed.
We both loved fairies and coloring books, we shared many fun times working on pages together from my childhood all the way up through adulthood we would color any time we got the chance. She shares artistic talent, a love of fairies and deep kindness and compassion with all of her sisters.
Another fond memory that I have of Jessica was when her and her sister Carrie (who I also miss dearly) babysat me. We had a great time with puzzles and junk food (and many questions about if they were my favorite cousins).
Jessica was an amazing mother and nurtured and cared for her children. I loved to see them interact with her. I loved to see the joy in their faces and the light in her eyes when they we around each other.
I will miss seeing her beauty of person and spirit. I also know that her beauty still exists within her children and her partner Jeff; her amazing mother and father and her wonderful sister; her beloved animals and our many memories of her.
Loosing someone is always difficult and the pain and fear of living without them can at times be too much to bare. I try to remind myself that the pain and emptiness we feel in Jessica's absence is a reminder of not only how much we lost, but of how much we gained having her in our lives and that, although the pain is great, I wouldn't trade it for anything because it reminds me of how much I loved her and how much she meant to me.
I'll miss you so much Jessica, I'll always think of you when I see fairies, when I'm holding a camera, when I see your beautiful family. Thank you for being a part of my life. I love you."
"How I Know Jessica: She always greeted me with a HUG and a smile. She accepted me into her life warmly, and treated me as though we had grown up together. If I ever needed help or a ride somewhere I knew I could call and she would be there in her red Jeep. She loved going places and on new adventures.Jessica bought a tattoo for me on my 23rd Birthday,drove me to have it done, and was happy for me that day. I now have a part of her on my left arm for always. Even after I was no longer a brother-in-law, she never changed how she treated me. With love, kindness, and acceptance. Jessica loved her family very much and I noticed that each time I saw her. And what a sense of humor! She laughed at all my bad jokes! What a great person to have made such a big impact on my life and on so many others. To me; that says a lot about her. And that's how I'll remember Jessica."
"How I Know Jessica: She always greeted me with a HUG and a smile. She accepted me into her life warmly, and treated me as though we had grown up together. If I ever needed help or a ride somewhere I knew I could call and she would be there in her red Jeep. She loved going places and on new adventures.Jessica bought a tattoo for me on my 23rd Birthday,drove me to have it done, and was happy for me that day. I now have a part of her on my left arm for always. Even after I was no longer a brother-in-law, she never changed how she treated me. With love, kindness, and acceptance. Jessica loved her family very much and I noticed that each time I saw her. And what a sense of humor! She laughed at all my bad jokes! What a great person to have made such a big impact on my life and on so many others. To me; that says a lot about her. And that's how I'll remember Jessica. "
"Jessica, they say there is a reason
They say that time will heal
But neither time nor reason
Will change the way we feel
We want to tell you something
So there won't be any doubt
You're so wonderful to think of
And so hard to live without
The time you spent with us
As a niece, cousin and friend
Are memories you can trust
We will all take to the end
Thank you for enriching our lives
With passion for life, family & art
in us your spirit will survive
and you will always be in our hearts
~Kat, Jodi & Leona"
Your smile, I will miss more than anything.
That and your sweet, loving presence.
You always had the biggest and most beautiful smile.
I can clearly see you sitting, anywhere, wherever you were, turning around and our eyes would meet. Your eyes would sparkle and you would smile. Your smile was always full of warmth bringing anyone in to your circle of kindness.
We share the same middle name.
I remember holding you as an infant and a toddler. You loved cuddling in my lap and listening to me read. When you were older, I taught you how to play some board games and we would have such fun. I remember you roller skating with my sister out on our concrete patio. Your long, pretty, hair would wave side to side. As we grew into adulthood, we would enjoy tea parties and murder mysteries together. Oh, the fun we had!
Until we see each other again, laugh with Carrie and keep those one-liners going.
I miss you sweet girl.
Your radiant smile."
"My Niece Jessica was a beautiful, witty and kind soul. I'm so grateful to have been able to watch her grow up. I have fond memories of her and her sisters at Harkins get togethers. Always together, always smiling. They got in their share of mischief, what one didn't think of, the other did. I remember when she got her 1st camera and started taking pictures. She did a wonderful job. Her Uncle Larry a camera fanatic, said she has an eye for photography. We enjoyed watching her take pictures. She always made me laugh. I could see she was a dedicated and loving Mother to Kelton and Jade. I'm So sorry they lost her at such a young age. She always put them 1st, before herself. You can see her in them. Artistic, beautiful, smart , kind and empathetic. Her memory will live on in them. And all of us in our hearts and memories. I'm comforted knowing God took her at the time that was best for her. She'll suffer No more. She was a true believer. I know she was devastated when Carrie was taken from her. She had to work through her anger. She's a Strong woman, always speaking her mind. I loved that about her. I loved her dearly. She's left a void in our lives, that will never be filled. We can only hope to learn from her and her life. I believe we will meet again. Until then we carry you in our hearts.
Love Always, Aunt Kris and Uncle Larry"
"Randy and I enjoyed seeing Jessica at family reunions. We also remember Jade coming to her.mom with no clothes on. Jessica took care of Jade with a smile on her face. Jessica was a proud momma. We remember her posting Jades drawings online. They were very good. Jessica left us too soon. But she is now with Carrie watching over us. I love angels."
"I didn't have the pleasure of watching Jessica grow up, so I was THRILLED to see her and Michele at the 2016 Stanley Family Union! I also got to meet her partner Jeff and daughter Jade, as she expressed her regret that I couldn't meet her son Kelton as well. I knew she was a supportive, loving, and proud mom by the way she enthusiastically described each of her childrens interests and talents. While we are heartbroken that you left us too soon, we all know who was there in line lovingly greeting you, and I can just imagine the chatter now! See ya later sweet girl at our final destination and STANLEY FAMILY REUNION!"
"I have very fond memories of Jessica as a little girl. After I married her Uncle Bob I would go to the Stanley"s house to give the little girls haircuts. I thought I was so blessed to suddenly have 3 little nieces. They were so cute and sweet and always got along so well together. Jessica had beautiful dark hair and a wonderful smile that she kept through the years. She usually colored a picture for me which would have a place on the frig for a long time. It was such a joy to watch her grow into a lovely young women inside and out. I so enjoyed catching up at family get togethers. Jessica had a wonderful sense of humor and funny, wry observations. Her joy of motherhood and pride in her children was so apparent. We loved getting her cards with her kiddos pictures and details of their life. She was so supportive and kind when her Uncle Bob was ill. She sent him many cards with words of encouragement and love. It meant so much to him and me as well. The world lost a beautiful soul but knowing her spirit will live on in her children is a testament her love and dedication to them and those around her. Look forward to seeing you in heaven dear Jessica."
"Dear Sweet Jessica, we count ourselves tremendously fortunate to of had such a funny, beautiful niece even for a short time. You were so thoughtful when we had the family reunion and spent hrs putting together family pictures for all to enjoy while reminiscing. Our happiest memory with you was at your mom and dads when you were having such a difficult time keeping clothes on little Jade. You would turn around and she would pop up again naked as a jay bird. There was that beautiful Jessica grin and laugh, we were all cracking up having such a good time.
The only joy in this sadness is knowing you and Carey are side by side now happy together. Love you Jessica??"
"Our sweet Jessica's character was all encompassing. Jessica didn't do things half-heartedly. If she did it; she did it to perfection, with all her heart. When she got her licence, we gave her our old car. It was a 1987 Buick. She called it Sticks. She talked about it like it was a person. When she graduated and got a job the first thing she did was get a car she loved. She bought a red Jeep, she loved it and kept it for 10 years. This job she got was a dream job for her. She absolutely loved photography. She was the best at it. She took classes, bought a very special camera and equipment. She was an excellent photographer. She took pictures of nature, people, families, weddings pets, bands, all occasions. She was very, very good at it. This job was at the Eastman Kodak Company,one of the best film companies at that time.She started off as just a new hire like all the rest. Before long she was singled out for the perfection in her work.Since every picture going out from that company had to be perfect,one of her jobs became color correcting. She loved her job, and they loved her. Jessica was a funny, funny gal.When she walked into a room the spirits of everyone in the room were lifted, and all of a sudden everyone was laughing and having a good time. She was the queen of one liners. And those one liners came from the funny shows her and her sisters loved to watch. Some of the funny movies like Once Upon A Crime, What About Bob,Almost Heroes, Night At The Roxbury. She loved The Office,Magnum PI,Wings, Psych, Monk, Twin Pecks. The list goes on. When she was young we loved camping. Our favorite place was Provincial Park up in Canada. We would go for 2 weeks at least each summer. A beautiful, quiet spot.The camping spots were big like camping by yourselves.We all had a special friend up there. His name was George, a small chipmunk. I'm sure each year it was a different one, but George loved us. He knew us so well, when Bob layed on the ground to rest he would put some peanuts in his shirt pocket. George would come up and go right on top Bob and go into his pocket and got the peanuts. Oh how Jessica and her sisters loved it. One of the dark sides of Jessica's all encompassing character was that if someone were to bother, bully or threaten her family or friends,she had no problem walking straight up to them and letting them know they were not to do that again. And that person went away from that meeting knowing to NEVER do that again. Jessica really was the sweetest, funniest, most loyal person you could ever want to meet. She loved her family, Kelton , Jade, Jeff so much, she was a great Mom.We really will miss her so much."
"Jessica, Carrie and I did everything together. We rode bikes, we loved making cookies with mom. My sister was one of the funniest people I know. She always cheered me up. I have been missing her so badly. My sister was kind, she treated my son like hers. When I was in my 3rd year at UW, working and raising Forrest. So Jessica told me to quit my job and she would give me the same amount of money I was making. She used to clean for me and watch Forrest. No one could ask for a sister like that. I don't have any sisters now. It was always us 3. I feel utterly alone. My heart is so broken. I am in shock. Absolute shock. I love her like no one else. I would give anything to have her back. I don't know how I'll do this without them. Jessica, I love you and I miss you so much. I love you.
"Sissy was an amazing sister to me and always made things more exciting whenever she was around. I remember when she took the photos of my band on a few occasions and how incredible her eye for photography was. At times she could be very proficient with curse words! Especially when Forrrest was little and within earshot I'd say, "Sissy- P.G.! We'd all laugh about it and loved it because she couldn't help herself and I loved her unrestrained spirit above all her other amazing qualities! I wish we had gotten to see her much more often over the last few years, but she and her family always seemed to be there when it mattered the most for birthdays, Thanksgiving, etc. I love you Sissy and can't wait to see you and Carrie one day soon but until then watch over us and know you're in our hearts- being missed every day."