"It is probably a little unorthodox to leave a note over three years later, but I just now heard about her passing and am very shocked. I swam with Matt and Jeremy at Lewis Central (as Glenwood swam with us). I also saw Melissa around as she was one of the girls who seemed to be at that pool ALL THE TIME, as well as supporting her brother. She gave off happy energy always had a great smile. I'm very sorry for the loss you've all gone through. I know it's never easy. Prayerfully, Todd"
In loving memory of
Melissa Ann Fender
July 27, 2007
Melissa Ann Fender, one of three children of Martin Charles Fender and Jill Marie (Schneider) Fender, was born in Omaha, Nebraska on November 29, 1983. Melissa grew up in Glenwood, Iowa and attended the Glenwood Community Schools where she excelled in both sports and academics. She was a lifelong member of St. John Lutheran Church in Mineola, Iowa and her strong faith was evident in the way she lived her life. She enjoyed the outdoors, soccer, and had a passion for swimming. Melissa loved to play with children, taught swimming lessons for the American Red Cross and also gave private lessons. Melissa graduated from the Glenwood Community High School in 2002.
Melissa moved to Ames, Iowa where she attended Iowa State University. She was a member of the ISU Swim Team and within three years received a Bachelor of Liberal Studies Degree with an emphasis on Environmental Studies, Psychology, and Spanish. While at ISU, Melissa was always on the Dean's list and was named to the Big 12 All Academic Swim Team three times. She also tutored Spanish, taught English to children, and was an instructor for Swim America. She was perpetually happy and had boundless energy. The environment and learning how to be a better steward of the land became another passion in Melissa's life. She was involved in the Forestry Club and the Society of American Foresters. During the summer of 2006, Melissa worked for the Anna Beal Nature Conservancy, traveling all over Iowa, beautifying state parks and other protected areas.
On March 11, 2007, Melissa's longtime sweetheart, Jeremy Allen Jacobus, whom she had been dating since her sophomore year in high school, asked for her hand in marriage. In May, Melissa graduated from ISU with a second bachelor's degree in Forestry. The young couple made their home in Sherburn, Minnesota. Melissa had accepted a position with the Natural Resources Conservation Services of Dickinson County, Iowa. Her first day of work was to be on Monday, July 30th.
Melissa died suddenly at the Fairmont Medical Center in Fairmont, Minnesota on Friday, July 27, 2007 at the age of 23 years, 7 months, and 28 days. She was preceded in death by her paternal grandparents Morris and Marthabelle Fender and her maternal grandfather Lavern Schneider.
Melissa is survived by her fiancé Jeremy Jacobus of Sherburn, MN; parents Martin and Jill Fender of Glenwood, IA; sister Megan Williams and her husband Jeremy and their daughter Eleanora of Rochester, MN; brother Matthew Fender of Glenwood; grandmother Helen Schneider of Glenwood; aunts and uncles; cousins and many, many friends.
Tributes
" I am in shock! I've just returned from a month out of state and opened my e-mail for the first time in that time. I found a message from our Environmental Studies secretary alerting me to the tragic news. I just can't believe it. As you know, Melissa was my student assistant for four years. Before that, she was the outstanding student in a large class of mine despite being only a freshman among older students. Not only was she a great student, but it was such a pleasure to have her in class. Whenever I looked her way she was ALWAYS attentive and ALWAYS had a smile on her face - a great and rare source of positive reinforcement for any teacher. When I announced an opening for a student assistant I hoped she would apply, as I knew she would be my top choice, not only because of her being easy to work with but because the position required a very meticulous, careful person who gets things right. Of course I was delighted that she did apply, and she never disappointed me in four years on the job. She often brought a smile to my face, especially when she addressed me simply as "Tanner," which she often did. I don't know where she came up with that, but I always got a kick out of it. Naturally, she became simply "Fender" to me. Always, you can all be very proud of her. Incidentally, Matt was a student of mine as well, and similarly outstanding as a person and student. What a family you must be! Melissa was one of the finest persons I have ever known. What a loss, for you and for all of us privileged to know her. Sincerely, Thomas Tanner Professor Emeritus of Environmental Studies Iowa State University "
"I'm so sorry to hear of your family's great loss. "
"To the entire family: You have my deepest sympathy. You will never get *over* the sadness of Melissa's passing, but you WILL get **through** it. Our son (age 21) passed away almost a year and a half ago, and our continued faith and the precious memories of him are all that sustain us. I pray God's blessings on you and yours through this difficult time. Iowa State '72 and with friends from Glenwood."
"Jill, Martin, and family, I cannot begin to tell you how many ways my heart goes out to you during this tragic and difficult time. Jill-you and I have talked and shared photos and stories at work about our children/grandchildren. I remember Melissa's stories well. She was an accomplished person and had done a lot and touched a lot of people in her young life. That's something to be proud of. I know that she had good parental attention and it came through in her bubbly out-going personnality. She was like a beacon. I'm sure you will enjoy all the wonderful memories after the pain subsides. (that will take awhile) The good memories and laughter and your faith will carry you through. I also think of Grandma Helen, Mike and family, and Meagan and Matt. And of her fiance. My deepest sympathies to all of you. May God Bless you all. Nancy mackey"
"Jill & Martin and family--we are so sorry to hear about Melissa's passing. I remember her as that cute little girl with a smile forever pasted on her face, always joking and playing around with her brother and sister. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time."
"Dear Jill and family, I was stunned to hear of your loss. Words cannot begin to express my sympathy. I think about the day's we worked together in Lacy Hall, and it seems like a lifetime ago, when children were something we thought about having someday. How fast the time has gone. I did not know Melissa, but I can see her beauty, and the kindness in her smile. It's the same smile I remember Jill having. May your memories comfort you. You are in my prayers."
"Jill, I worked with you many years ago at the State School when you were the supervisor on 1 West in Lacey Hall. I am so saddened and pained by the loss you have just suffered. You, your family, and everyone affected by Melissa's passing are in my heart, thoughts and prayers. You're faith is strong and that will get you through along with the cherished memories of Melissa and the love of friends and family. I remember always visiting with you about our kids and seeing your children's pictures. I wish I could be there for you now. Someone once said, after the loss of her husband and child, that in order to be able to go on after such a great loss she finally chose not to think and dwell on what all she had lost but to rejoice in all that God had given her until their passing. What a precious, wonderful, loving gift you were all given in Melissa. May God's hand hold and guide you throughout this difficult time. "
"Sometimes people as kind as Melissa never know the impact they are making on someone's life...since hearing of the tragic news, I have pondered a way to express my gratitude towards her and came to realize words will never be enough. When everyone else doesn't believe in you, Melissa did and was your number one cheerleader. Her positive attitude and kind smile assured not only myself but many others that she was a person you could count on. Her hard work in and out of the pool was greatly respected. Melissa truely was an overall role model to many. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends. We will miss you greatly Melissa."
"Our sympathy to the Fender and Jacobus family. We did not really know Melissa but saw her with Jeremy at times. Our impression of her was a sweet and very nice person. The last time was at Aaron and Abby's wedding. Jeremy, our thoughts and prayers are with you. You will miss her so much. It's hard to understand why but remember you will see her again. We remember you from so many times with Aaron at birthday parties, sports, etc. We send our love and prayers. Aaron's Grandpa and Grandma Sorensen"
"I am deeply sorry to hear of Melissa's passing. She was a truely wonderful person with such great spriit. I can only remember few times in the years that I knew her that she did not have a smile on her face and an encouraging word for a friend. I am sorry that I was unable to make it to services, however, my thoughts and prayers are with all of your family! God bless you guys!"
"To the family of Melissa, I wanted you to know that i was not blessed to know Melissa, but I could see at the visitation that her life may have fell short but she did more in her lifetime than many people would even hope to accomplish. I continue to think of all of you and the grief that you must be going through. I have faith that Jesus will carry you through the days that you dont know how you are going to even make it. I feel blessed by just seeing her contagious smile in all the pictures. You have many, many shoulders to lean on. God Bless You, Deb LeFevre"
"Our heartfelt sympathy to Jeremy, and all family and friends mourning the loss of Melissa. May your faith in God give you comfort and sustain you during this difficult time. You are in our thoughts and prayers. -The Staff at MC Fitness and Prairie Rehabilitation, Jackson, MN "
"Fender and Jacobus families, my wife and I worked with Jeremy at LI-COR in Lincoln. I never had the pleasure of meeting Melissa, but please accept my heartfelt condolences. Please know that we will be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers."
"I did not know Melissa very well, but I was very good friends with Jeremy at Iowa State. I was completely shocked when I heard the terrible news. Tears were instantly brought to my eyes. From my interactions with Melissa, she seemed like a very nice girl. Not knowing her too well, it's great to read everybody's comments and learn more about the type of person she truly was. Jeremy is a great guy, and it's only fitting that he was with such a great girl that had an impact on so many people's lives. My thoughts and prayers are with Jeremy, Melissa, and their families and friends. Love, Amanda"
"JILL AND FAMILY, I WISH TO EXTEND MY SYMPATHY TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. KNOW THAT MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOURS."
"Dear family members, I can't imagine the sorrow you are feeling at this moment and the loss you will have in your lives. Scarlett and I met Melissa in the summer of 1999. We were moving to Glenwood and I was trying to convince Scarlett that she would really like her new town if she would meet the soccer girls and get involved with the Firestarters. Melissa was one of the first girls to greet us with that friendly smile and those twinkling brown eyes. Her friendliness made both of us feel so welcomed! After meeting Melissa I just knew that Glenwood would be a good place to live. We also enjoyed traveling to Denver with her for the soccer tournament. Patty Schmitt."
"I want the Fender family and friends know what a positive influence Melissa had been for our daughter Lindsay. It does not surprise me that some of Lindsay's best practices and swims were with Melissa. It is interesting to note that both had their lifetime bests in the 100 fly at Big 12's in a time trial with just the two of them swimming. They were great training partners and it was fitting that the two could share their best swims together! It is that mutual support in and out of the pool that is one of her more memorable attributes. Melissa witnessed her Christian faith and love through her swimming and her years at Iowa State. "
"I had the pleasure of having Melissa in several of my classes while teaching at Glenwood. She was one of the nicest, hard working, positive, and optimistic young ladies I have ever been around. It does not surprise me how successful she has been at Iowa State and in touching other people's lives. I hope her family and friend's current pain is replaced by her great memories very soon. My sincere, heartful condolences. Tyler Sisco"
"We will always remember Melissa's smile :), her sweet disposition and friendly personality. She will be missed by so many people. Our thoughts and prayers are with Jeremy and Melissa's family and friends during this sad time."
"Dear Fenders, Our deepest sympathies are with you at this difficult time as we remember with you the joy Melissa brought to everyone's life. Melissa was known to always have a smile on her face and have positive remarks for everyone she encountered. She will be missed by the entire Cyclone family. The Rogers family"
"Jill and family, I don't know what words there would be to ease your pain, I know Melissa and Megan and Matt through you and your love and pride for them, our little talks at work, our constant boasting of our kids, we are truly family at work, when one hurts we all hurt, my heart is breaking for you and your family, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I admire your strength, I admire the faith you have. Bless you all."
"Jill and family- Although we did not know Melissa through the memorials we feel we do now.God has a special job for Melissa and sounds like he got a super one. God Bless you and your family- you are in our prayers."
"Jill and family I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I can not even imagine your pain. You have my deapest sympathy. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, and please lean on friends during this hard time, that is what they are there for. If you need anything, day or night please call. God Bless all of you."
"We have truly lost a beautiful soul. Chelsea and Grant had the blessing of Melissa's love for children when we lived next door in Glenwood and Melissa would babysit and play with the kids. She always took such a genuine interest in them and her laugh could often be heard enjoying the little things with them. We have many photos of Chelsea and Melissa sharing Barbie birthday cakes, playing in the little pool, and sharing a laugh. Words cannot express the sadness we feel for your entire family and the sense of loss we all have. Love and prayers to your family as you make your way through this unimaginable time. Melissa's time with us was far too short..... All our love, Michelle, Chelsea, & Grant Papillion, NE"
"I am thinking of you and send my deepest sympany. "
"I was Melissa's teamate this past year at Iowa State. I am in Italy and just found out about Melissa's passing, and I am crushed to hear the news. Melissa was extreemly suportive and always cheered me on. She exuded a happiness that made everyone always want to be around her. She was kind, loyal to her team, friendly, smart, funny, so many things. My condolences are with the Fender family. May God take Melissa in His arms. "
"As one of the secretaries in NREM I've had the opportunity to work at times with Melissa. She was a very outgoing and friendly person with a wonderful smile. What a shock to return to work after vacation and learn of her death. Having had a daughter die at 27 I have a little understanding of your tragic loss. Please know that we will be praying for you that God will be your refuge and strength, a very present help and comfort to you her parents, family, and friends. "
"I didn't know Melissa personally, but we did have a class together. She was always laughing and always had a smile on her face. She made class fun and interesting and always made everyones day a little brighter. She was a wonderful person. My prayers go out to Jeremy and the rest of her family."
"I was a classmate of Melissa's in Forestry. She was a great person to be around. She always saw the bright side of life's challenges. I remember that on many an occasion, Melissa and I were two of the last people in the room working on tests or projects. We would look across the room at one another and just laugh knowing the satisfaction of a job well done. Melissa was a person who took the time to do any task the right way. Melissa will be greatly missed by everyone that knew her. My sincere condolences go out to all of her family and friends. One thing that I will alway remember about Melissa is she alway had a smile on her face and a positive attitude."
"We didn't know Melissa, but it's tragic that someone so young, enthusastic and talented has left this world. As fellow Cyclones, our thoughts are with her family and many friends."
"Martin & Jill, Although I did not personally know Melissa, I wanted to send my condolences as one parent to another. My heart goes out to you and your family. Our children are a precious gift from God. You are in my prayers. Sincerely, Elaine Barns (Connie Moore's sister)"
"I couldn't have asked for a better teammate on the Iowa State Swimming & Diving team than Melissa. She was encouraging, supportive, and an extremely hardworker. I have never met anyone so kind, positive and upbeat. I feel honored and privileged to have known such an amazing person as the qualities she possessed are hard to come by. She will be missed by those who knew her. My prayers and sympathies are with Melissa's family as well as Jeremy. God bless."
"Jill and Martin, Our most sincere sympathy is with you both. We pray that time will heal some of your pain, and you can rejoice in the wonderful memoories of the years Mellissa spent with you. "
"Although I had not seen Melissa for a long time, when I heard the news I was just devastated and shocked. School and life in general made it so we hadn't talked to eachother in a while, however she will forever be in my heart as a great soccer player and teammate, but more importantly a great girl with a huge heart. She will be missed. My prayers are with the family. "
"You and your family are in my prayers."
"Jill, Paul and I watched Erin and Melissa grow from beautiful little girls to the lovely young women. There are no words to describe our sympathy for you and your family. You will always be in our thoughts and we will do anything you need us to do. We love you! God Bless you and your family as you face the difficult times ahead."
"Jill, What can someone say to ease the pain and sorrow you must be feeling. I don't have the answer, but know that you are in our thoughts and our prayers. If there is anything I can do to help please call me, work or off work I am here. If you need to talk in the middle of the night I am here call me. Your Friend Tammie "
"Jeremy-I didn't get the chance to meet Melissa, but I know she was very special to you. Please accept my deepest condolences with your loss. My prayers go out to her, you and all her family."
"We have so many wonderful memories of Melissa, her contagious smile and bubbly personality. We had the opportunity to watch Melissa and Abby take that next step after high school, when they started at ISU and shared the "flooded apartment". What a pair-salted nut rolls and cheesecake, no chocolate. As parents, we knew that Abby and Melissa were "safe" with one another. Our last conversation, Melissa was so excited to be an aunt and how fun Eleanora was. Our prayers are with you all, she is safe with God. "
"Dear Jill, Mike, and Marsha, I wish I knew the right words to say to help your hearts heal. With two daughters of my own, I can't imagine the pain you all must feel. I didn't know her but the staff at 468 have talked alot about Melissa and I have to believe she is with God helping with the children, Maybe Emily and David are with her! I won't be at the funeral, but my thoughts will be with you on Wednesday. Always there for you, Susan Gray"
"I had the privilege of swimming with Melissa for 3 years in the sprint lane at Iowa State. She always carried her great attitude throughout practice, and made everyone smile. She encouraged her lane members and pushed us to be better swimmers and people. A friend to everyone, Melissa will be missed dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. "
"LaVonne, Bren, Leah and I send our sincerest condolences and prayers. I don't even know how to express our feelings but we want you to know we treasure the time we knew Melissa, particularly the earlier years, when we knew her better. She and Megan and Matt were such a wonderful part of our early years on 225th Street, visiting often and playing with Bren and later, to some degree, with Leah, who had a particular bond with Melissa, it seemed. I remember Melissa in motion, full of more energy than any other kid I had known. I remember pitching to her in a backyard game and I recall her racing about the outside of the house with a water gun, in a battle royale with other kids. I recall the time when she was five or six when she went to Bren's birthday party at Showbiz Pizza and I had to spend most of my time there keeping track of her. She never slowed down and I guess that was how she lived her life. From reading a few of these entries, it is obvious that she made the world a better place and I hope that is some solace. "
"Our family sends our heartfelt condolences to all of Melissa's family at this sad time. May God hold all of you in his hands and make your sorrow a little easier to bear."
"My thoughts are with your family."
"Home I will play with you on the school playground or in the back yard, BUT, when my mother calls my name, let me know. Because, I will have to go home. I will get into trouble with you, and no one can know. BUT, if my parents see us and I get busted. I will have to go home. I will love to spend some time with you. To dinner, a movie, and sometimes dancing. BUT, when midnight hits, I will have to go home. I will share my life with you, walking, talking, laughing and singing. I will also make you cry. BUT, when my Father calls my name, I will have to go home, and stay. David Millsap--05 My thoughts and prayers are with you. Lat me know if you need anything.. "
"I honestly can't even begin to express in words how sorry I am for both the Fender and Jacobus families. Melissa was, and will always be, one of the most genuine, caring, considerate, honest, loyal and loving people I have ever met. I will always remember the odd years of swim team.... the years where she wasn't in my age bracket! Then, at least, I stood a chance of winning!! :) She was an amazing athlete, a loyal friend, and a compassionate and loving partner to Jeremy. I had the blessing of swimming with her, playing soccer with her and getting to know her. My thoughts and prayers are with the Fender family and Jeremy. Jeremy, like I said, I'm here if you need to talk. Ever. You are one of the strongest people I have ever met. You are one of the best men alive. I am sorry I don't have anything profound to say.... only my sympathy and a shoulder and an ear. I love you and will be here if you need anything. ~Joylynne"
"We had the privilege of meeting Melissa when she and Jeremy came to New Jersey in June. She was such a lovely, sweet young woman, and we were so happy that she was going to be a part of our family. She was so wonderful with all the little children. Our hearts and our prayers go out to Jeremy, her parents, family, and all who loved her."
"Jill --I am so sorry for your unspeakable loss. You are one of most virtuous people I have ever met, and it is obvious from reading these entries that you succeeded in passing this on to Melissa. I hope you find comfort in knowing that your daughter had such a positive impact on so many people. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers."
"I had a few classes with Melissa at Iowa State. I first met her in dendrology. She was always willing to help out. She always had a way of making people laugh and had an infectious smile. I know she has helped many and touched many people's lives. My condolences to her family, fiance and close friends. She will truly be missed."
"Fender and Jacobus families you are in my thoughts and prayers, may God bless you all and help you through this hard time. Melissa was always such a kind and caring person, and was always there for everyone she was friends with. You couldn't find a better friend in anyone."
"We the Calzada Rosario family from Puerto Rico, are very sorry about Melissa passing. Frances told me the special kind of person Melissa was, always with a smile on her face. Please accept our condolences, our thoughts and prayers are with all your family.God bless you all. Rest in Peace Melissa. "
"Whether it was in school, on the soccer field, or just hanging out, there was never a time that she wasn't looking at life in a positive way. Melissa was a role model, a mentor, and a great friend. Even though we wandered off the path going up the Rocky Mountains in search of moose, she never did wander off her path in life. She is a forever friend and she is safe with God now. I send out my sincere condolences to the Fender and Jacobus families. "
"Jill and Martin, Unfortunately, I understand the devastation you feel. It is truly obvious what a wonderful daughter you have raised; with the community coming together to pay her tribute. We haven't kept in contact since high school, but still know that you and your families are in my prayers."
"Im so so very sorry for your loss and like I told you Im here if you need anything you have my number. Melissa was a great person and will truley be missed. Love you guys"
"Our office as stated is very shaken by the passing of Melissa. I personally helped interview her and she had contacted me for possible jobs. Although I knew her for a very short time from talking with her on the phone and in the office I was very impressed with her positive attitude and willingness to learn and to want work. I know she would have done great things for the environment. Although our office new her for a very short time she has made a lasting impression on us. For the loss our commissioners and staff feel for the little time we knew Melissa I can't image your grief. You are all in our thoughts and prayers."
"I had the great opportunity to get to know Melissa growing up through swimming. We first met each other as Glenwood and Malvern swam against each other, and then were teammates at Lewis Central from elementary school all the way though middle school when I stopped. She was so much fun and so easy for everyone to get along with - I'm not sure I ever heard a mean word out of Melissa's mouth. One of my most vivid memories of Melissa was was a superbowl when we were in probably 6th grade... we had bet laps against our coach Bruce about who would win - and called each other at every time out or commercial. She was full of life then and still was the same way at Iowa State when I would run into her on campus. My thoughts and prayers are with her family, Jeremy, and her close friends."
"I was shocked and saddened to hear the news about Melissa. I had the privilige of getting to know her as a teammate on the Iowa State swim team. I don't think I ever saw her without a smile on her face and she never had anything negative to say. She was always a positive, cheerful and happy person and touched the lives of everyone she came in contact with. She will be sorely missed, but fondly remembered. My thoughts and prayers are with her family at this time. "
"My name is Petra Plaminkova and I was Melissa´s teammate and friend back at Iowa State University. I live now in Czech Republic, since I graduated. I heard about Melissa and I am very very sorry about Melissa´s passing. My thoughts are with you and I wish I could be over the sea now....Petra"
"My name is Susanne Notbohm and I was Melissa's teammate from 2002-2004. I heard about the tragic news and wanted you to know that I will have you in my thoughts and prayers. Melissa was a wonderful and cheerful person and I am honored that I got the chance to meet her. Unfortunately I am in Germany, so not able to attend the funeral, but I will keep her in my heart. Susanne"
"I was so sorry to hear of Melissa's passing. Matt spoke very highly of his sister. What a tremendous loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you."
"I was older than Melissa, but got a chance to be her teammate on the Iowa State swim team. My memories of Melissa are that she was always positive, smiling, and had a great outlook on life. I pray for you all during this sad and difficult time. I live in Seattle, WA now and will not be able to attend funeral services. However, know my prayers are with you as you grieve Melissa's unexpected passing."
"I am so sorry to hear about Melissa'a passing. I did not know her, but I know her wonderful mother Jill and have heard her mom talk about Melissa. I work at Glenwood Resource Center in a different unit from Melissa's mother, but have known her mother for years and only have the utmost respect for her, she is a wonderful person, I am so sorry for Jill and all her family and friends loss of such a beautiful young women who had so much to offer and so much ahead of her. God bless and comfort all of her family and friends in their loss."
"We did not know Melissa well, but were looking forward to knowing and working with her. She had interviewed and just last Thursday accepted a short-term position with the Dickinson and Osceola Soil and Water Conservation Districts as Silver Lake Watershed Coordinator. We were shocked and saddened to receive the call this morning informing us of her passing, on what would have been her first day at work. Our heartfelt condolences go out to her family and friends. "
"Our thoughts and prayers are with you. I pray that Jesus Christ will give you the peace, that you will be seeking in the loss of Melissa."
"We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter Melissa. We have been thinking about you and your family since we have heard the sad news. Melissa was our daughters mentor at swimming. She commented how nice of a person Mellissa was. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless The Wegner Family"
"I was Melissa's athletic trainer at ISU for two years. I cannot recall one time that she did not greet me with a huge smile. She was one of the most positive and upbeat athletes that I have ever had the pleasure to be around. Please accept my condolences and know that Melissa's family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Tim"
"I knew Melissa as one of our forestry students at ISU. She was also the first swimming teacher that our daughter, Melody, had at the ISU Swim America program. Melissa was a model student and person in every way. She was just like a ray of sunshine! Her friendly smile and outgoing manner always brightened my day. I remember how she used to like to get "Laffy Taffy" from Lyn's desk in the NREM Student Services office. I have fond memories of Melissa, but I am writing this through my tears. I share in your loss and pray for the peace of God to surround your family as you mourn the loss of one so full of life and happiness. "
"I watched Melissa grow up with my daugter, Alanna, and she was always such a joy to have around. Always smiling, joking, and ever willing to include Alanna's little brother Austin in all their adventures. We all loved having Melissa around because she was such a positive, happy person. I can't believe she's gone... Alanna is on her way home from Minneapolis for the services, and we all send our love and prayers. "
"It was a great shock to learn of Melissa's passing. She was a great person and would have continued to make the world a better place, as she did with all her surroundings as a student here at Iowa State. As one of her forestry instructors I know how dedicated she was to her education and how skilled a professional she had become. My sincere condolences to her family, fiance, and the many close friends she made in life. We all need to follow her lead and find a way to keep smiling and doing our best."
"I knew Melissa as one of our forestry students at ISU. She was also the first swimming teacher that our daughter, Melody, had at the ISU Swim America program. Melissa was a model student and person in every way. She was just like a ray of sunshine! Her friendly smile and outgoing manner always brightened my day. I remember how she used to like to get "Laffy Taffy" from Lyn's desk in the NREM Student Services office. I have fond memories of Melissa, but I am writing this through my tears. I share in your loss and pray for the peace of God to surround your family as you mourn the loss of one so full of life and happiness. "
"Mel was one of the greatest people I have been able to watch grow up. She was Ali's mentor on Glenwood Flyers Swim Team and was the person who taught her how to swim. She was such a positive and glowing young woman. I remember how she would always take on the younger kids and always cheer them through their events. Mel was an incredible person and her loss will be felt by so many of the community. Tori was encourages by Mel to learn the butterfly stroke and so enjoyed the mentoring companionship. Mel, ,you will be missed so much! Jill, I am so sorry for your loss. I know your family will be held tightly in the arms of God as you carry this great loss. Our love to you all. "
"As a friend of Matt's from high school, I knew Melissa. She was a great person. I'm sorry for your loss. You're all in my prayers."
"Jill & Family - we are so sorry for your loss of your beautiful daughter, Melissa. We knew Melissa when we lived in Glenwood and Evan was the pastor at First Christian Church. I know that our son John and Melissa were friends and classmates when they were very young. You are in our thoughts and prayers during this very sad time and on into the future. Evan & Patty Williams"
"I will always remember Melissa's beautiful face and smile. She belongs to one of the most strong and faithful families I know and I also know that she will be missed inconsolably for a very very long time to come. Without knowing exactly how to convey my deep condolences to her family, please know that you will remain in my thoughts and prayers for many days and weeks to come. God's Peace, Gretchen"
"It has been our priviledge and pleasure to know Melissa and her whole family as faithful members of St. John Lutheran Church in Mineola, Ia. We watched Melissa and her siblings grow into responsible Christian adults, active in church and community. We are confident she is in the loving arms of the Lord, but are grieving that she left us so soon. God bless and console all who loved this precious young woman. "
"I only know Melissa for one year since I came to ISU as the assistant swimming coach. She is one of the most sincere and cheerful person I have ever met. We spend a great time on the pool deck when she helped the team as a student volunteer coach. I am very sorry to hear about Melissa's passing. Please accept my condolences and know that Melissa's family will be in my thoughts. "
"I was very upset to hear of Melissa's passing. I have great memories of Melissa while swimming with her at Iowa State and teaching swim lessons at Swim America. Melissa is the most kind-hearted and positive person I've ever known. She always came with a positive outlook and always saw the glass as half full. I am truly honored to have known her and will miss her dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with all of her family. God bless."
"With out a doubt Melissa was one of the nicest people I have ever met. Words cannot describe what a tragedy this is. She will be greatly missed by all that knew her."
"A few years ago when I was swimming at Lewis Central for exercise, it was during Christmas break and a swimmer in an ISU swim cap was working out in a lane. When she stopped to rest a minute I said to her "I bet you are Melissa" and she said "yes she was and that I bet you are Abby's aunt." I said yes I was and we visited for a bit and I wished her well. It is a pleasant memory for me. We are so very sorry for your loss and hope that you can take comfort in God's love during this sad time. You will be in our thoughts and prayers."
"I did not know Melissa personally but from my experience at ISU we're always and forever Cyclones. Melissa's family and friends are in our prayers."
"I was fortunate enough to be able to work with Melissa on many occasions. She was always the bright spot in a day of classes to run into her and see how excited she was to see you and make sure you were doing ok. My thoughts and prayers are with your family and friends."
"I had the pleasure of knowing Melissa through Jeremy, who is one of my best friends. I remember when they were riding with my then-girlfriend and I to a wedding and how they were in the backseat laughing and getting along in a way I envied. The love that she and Jeremy shared was evident, and I know the positive impact she had in his life, as well as others. She was always friendly to everyone, and was a kind, caring person. I know that she is surely in Heaven, and that she will always be in the hearts of everyone she touched. My thoughts and prayers continue to go out to both the Jacobus and Fender families, and to anyone who is grieving in this loss. God bless."
"Iâ??m one of Melissaâ??s teachers in the forestry program at Iowa State. I loved having Melissa in class. Her infectious smile, laugh and the sparkle in her eyes were a treat, and so were her challenging questions. It was great the way she never let me off the hook â?? if something I said didnâ??t square with something else she learned, heard about or experienced, she asked. Melissa was always the last to finish my tests, caring more about the quality of the answer than the A (she got the A too, of course!). Like my colleague Doug, these fond memories come back to me through tears. I pray that all of Melissaâ??s family and friends are surrounded by her gifts of love and joy, even at this time of such loss."
"I am a forestry student at Iowa State and was deeply saddened to hear about Melissa. I did not have any classes with her but was lucky enough to sit at her table during every forestry meeting the past few years. Melissa had a smile that was contagious and was an excellent mentor. She was definitely a model forestry student: very bright, enthusiastic, and dedicated to the environmental field, which everyone admired. Melissa will be greatly missed and my condolences to all that knew her. "
"Jill and Family, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours in this time of need."
"The first thing I think of when I hear Melissa's name is the smile she always wore. To see her everyday as I did as a former roomate of Jeremy's was to think she never had a bad day. I was soo shocked to hear the news- If this world made sense, she would be last to leave it, as it was a better place when she brightened it with her smile. Melissa, Jeremy & Families are continually in my thoughts in this time of grieving."
"My name is Susan O'Brien, and I was one of the TAs in a class Melissa took last spring. While Melissa was not in my TA section (class was devided into groups), it was impossible not to notice her bright smile when the whole group was united in the beggining of classes. She used to sit in one of the front tables, and a lot of times I shared the table with her before the groups had to aplit up. I am pregnant and remember the last time I saw her in class, when she wished me the best with the baby. Her attitude and great smile could never be passed unoticed. She was very bright! I am very sorry to hear about her death. All my heart and prayers are with you now... Susan "
"I was a classmate of Melissa's in many forestry classes at Iowa State. Melissa, with her great smile and positive attitude, always showed great enthusiasm and passion towards her school work. Melissa will be remembered for her cheerful smile and her great work ethic. My condolences go out to Jeremy and the rest of the family. Melissa will be greatly missed. "
"My name is Josh White and I had the great opportunity to get to know Melissa through several classes and working on different projects in the GIS lab last year. She always could make studying in Science II that much more tolerable and could provoke a laugh even studying for dendrology. I am living in Alaska right now and will be unable to attend the funeral but Jeremy and family have my families and my sympathies."
"I did not know Melissa personally but my brother, Layne Page, is a friend of both Jeremy and Melissa's. I have met Jeremy on one occassion and send my thoughts and prayers out to him and the entire Fender and Jacobus families during this time of grief. God bless you. "
"I did not know Melissa personally but my brother, Layne Page, is a friend of both Jeremy and Melissa's. I have met Jeremy on one occassion and send my thoughts and prayers out to him and the entire Fender and Jacobus families during this time of grief. God bless you. "
"Jill and family, My heart is breaking on so many levels for you. As the mother of one of Melissa's high school and college classmates, (Kelsey Peverill) we have been connected at many levels. Most of all, my heart breaks as a mother who had to bury a child. Our Kaleb was only 5 months old, but it was sudden and unexpected as this death. It is the worst of all pains. I will be here for you. Lu Peverill and family "
"We were so sorry to hear the news about Melissa. She was in our son Brandon's classes and also played 3v3 soccer with our daughter, Mandy. We always thought she was a very positive person and always had a smile, no matter what! She will be missed extremely. Our prayers go out to the family and to Jeremy. May God Bless...."
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"I do not know Melissa, but saw her obituary and have been reading the notes from other people. She is my brother's age. I just wanted to let you know that my husband and I are thiking of all of you. We lost a daughter after only a few days and my cousin at the age of 21y. It is something that no words can help, but just know that many are thinking and praying for you. "
"Our deepest sympathy to both the Fender and Jacobus families. There really are no words to express how much Melissa meant to everyone who knew her and how much she will be missed by all. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and will continue to be. She truly had a beautiful smile that I see everytime I hear her name. "
"I couldn't believe my eyes or ears when I saw the news of Melissa's passing. I remember her being an extraordinary person. She was caring and kind, and like many here have stated, she had a smile that could improve anyone's day. She was the kind of person that the world needs more of, and I am deeply saddened at this news. My most sincere condolences to her family and friends. ~Karl"
"Melissa was my classmate, teammate, and most of all my very good friend! I grew up with Melissa since the third grade, and ever since then, playing sports and just plain goofing around was what we enjoyed doing best together! Words cannot express how sorry I am she is gone. She touched so many people's lives, and I can thankfully say I was one of the lucky ones. I was able to see Melissa a little over a month ago, and we got to talk about all the fun times we had in the past and how much of goof balls we were together...I guess that hadn't really changed. ;) My thoughts and prayers are with the Fender and Jacobus families during this difficult time. Melissa was one of the most loyal friends, and just an all around amazing person. She will remain in my heart forever!!! "
"Melissa and I were friends at St. John's Luthern Church in Mineola growing up as kids, through high school, and as we attended Iowa State University. I saw Melissa a few times a semester, but the last time I saw Melissa I was on my skateboard late to class when I looked over and we waved and smiled at each other. It was the same full hearted smile that she gave everytime I saw her and everyone else that was lucky enough to know her. The last time we spoke, we shared our ideas and thoughts about the environment and ecology in which we both studied. Melissa would always be the one to send me a happy birthday wish when most everyone else had forgotten. She was never out of touch with the people that she cared about and I will always hold her in regards as at the highest level a human being could reach. I will miss her dearly. "
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"We are sorry to hear of Melissa's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of your family at this time."
"We are very sorry to her about Melissa's passing. You are all in our thoughts and prayers,God Bless you all."
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